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All right, friends, we're going to look at a problem often talked about in psychology that has to do with domestic abuse.
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And i want to look at domestic abuse in its more complex features because sometimes people ask questions like, you know, why don't people leave their abuser or how can people stay in a relationship like that? and it really has to do with a number of factors.
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And what i want you to take from this brief lecture is that the causes and solutions to domestic violence are not simple.
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Right they're not easy solutions i mean they are to those maybe outside of the situation but you've got to understand the abuse in the context of the whole experience of the individual undergoing it and one of the first things to remember is that abuse in and of itself is never a single isolated simple instance in fact abuse is often a cycle that occurs over and over again it has an escalation point to the cycle, then the abuse occurs, then it has this remorse from the abuser, an apology to never do it again, and then things level off, and the abuser might even be very caring until the escalation from the stressor occurs, and it repeats itself over and over again.
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So because of that cycle and that on and off, it's not easy for an individual to just walk away because they always think, well, maybe this time it won't happen again.
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So abuse is never an isolated instance.
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Abuse is also very multifaceted.
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It occurs through many, many, and i'm going to say channels.
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And what i mean by that, when you think of the psychological model we use in psychology or the model of a human being, we are physical, psychological, social creatures.
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Abuse occurs to our bodies.
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So there is physical abuse.
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Abuse can occur to somebody's emotions where they twist people emotionally.
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If you really love me, you would blah, blah, blah, blah, fill in the blank, that kind of thing.
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It can impact relationships.
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It keeps people, so abusers might keep people from engaging with other people.
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Think of child abuse.
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Sometimes child abuse is dismissed is this is the right of the parent to actually discipline.
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So abuse is hidden under this idea of discipline.
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So it's very multifaceted.
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It's never just easily identified as one thing.
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Okay, so we need to really, really, really think about it in a more holistic model of what's going on to the individual...